Dreaming of Divorce?

I just came across this article called She's Happily Married, Dreaming of Divorce and can honestly say it make me sick to my stomach. I was not surprised to see it was from Oprah's website. If articles like this are to be believed why would any woman decide to be married? You can definitely read the feminist thinking in it, but it strikes me even more as just sad. I know that marriage is hard and full of compromises, but this kind of outlook makes it seem pointless.

I guess without God as the center of a marriage, maybe most marriages are doomed it this kind of outcome. It just seems so sad. What am I saying..."seems" sad...it is sad. :(

Mission

I was listening to Dave Ramsey today at lunch...yes, I know I am obsessed...anyway he quoted someone, but I didn't check the name. The quote was so good I grabbed a scrap of paper to write it down.

"Make life a mission, not an intermission."

Pretty cool, huh?! And you know I love the good quotes :)

Good to Know

This goes under the heading of "good to know" and things to consider, hopefull for future reference. :)

12 Things You Should Not Do to Your Husband

Gracious ladies, enter here. Vicious man-haters, beware. Camilia Brown is in the house, and her words are health to the homemaker, but hateful to the rapacious feminist. Camilla is part of the league of gracious, responsible lady bloggers, and the following is from an article entitled “12 Things You Should Not Do To Your Husband.”

Read at your own risk:

1. DO NOT treat your husband as one of your children. You are not running the household he is. So no matter how busy you think you are or how many tasks you might have to perform at once you should not address your husband in this way: “Honey come here! Do this! Hold that! Grab this! Deal with this or that!” Now I am all for asking our husbands for help when he is available to give it, but bossing him around is not becoming to a wife. We must conduct ourselves as his help meet and not treat him as if the reverse were true.
   
2. DO NOT act as if you are more spiritual than he is. I honestly have a hard time with women who act as if they are the spiritual leaders of their family; as if they are doing all the spiritual reformation in the family while their husbands are busy with other pursuits and just tag along with regard to spiritual matters. We’ve all heard women say things like: “Well God told me this is the best for our family so I had to take the decision, because my husband is not there yet... I am praying for him though!” Even if it were true that a woman might be more spiritual than her husband, this attitude is a usurpation of the authority that God has given the family. There is never room for this kind of behavior in a Christian home. Honestly, my thoughts are that women who set themselves up as spiritual gurus in the family and brag of being more spiritual or knowledgeable than anyone else have proved themselves to be the contrary.
   


3. DO NOT talk over him and in a gathering DO NOT talk more than he does. If he doesn’t talk much than talk even less. It is just not becoming to women to do all the talking as if they speak for the family.
   


4. DO NOT complain about him to others. Don’t make him look foolish in front of anyone and don’t talk about his weaknesses to anyone.
   


5. DO NOT compare him with other men. You married an individual with different qualities, different style and vision. He is not like anyone else. He is the man that God has given you the task of loving and serving, and you should consider it an honor to be able to carry out that duty. Note to unmarried ladies: Make a list with the qualities a future husband MUST have to avoid your being totally dissatisfied. If it was not that important before you got married don’t nag him or be dissatisfied about it after you get married.
   


6. DO NOT nag him continuously about a matter. Did you hear the expression? DRIP! DRIP! DRIP!? I don’t like it when the children come even close to being drips, so I am sure no husband would appreciate it either.
   


7. DO NOT make him feel he doesn’t measure up to your expectations. Encourage, don’t criticize and most important...be content!
   


8. DO NOT be afraid to bring to his attention sins that he should deal with or concerns that you might have in regard to his conduct. It is a wife’s duty to encourage her husband in his spiritual growth. While it is not the wife’s duty to assume the role of her husband’s conscience, she is the closest to him and can encourage him grow in ways that others cannot. Our husbands must trust that we are help meets to them and that we are honest and sober minded in our reproof.
   


9. DO NOT always speak your mind. This doesn’t mean we should not have an opinion, but most of the time it is better to hold our tongues rather than “state the facts.” Choose your words carefully in soberness, patience, and love. This does not mean that it is wrong to be open with your husband about your concerns or being honest when he asks our opinion. There is a greater respect and trust that your husband will show toward your opinion when you find this balance.
   


10. DO NOT seek out parallel lives with him. Become acquainted with whatever job he does and get involved if possible, even if by just listening to him talk about it. Don’t think about your husband’s pursuits in terms of: HIS career, HIS hobbies, HIS this, or HIS that. I hear women say: “Well he is busy with his pursuits and I with the children.” Yes we have different roles but we work together towards the same goal: to Glorify God in every area of our lives. You can’t be a proper help meet for your husband if you are not involved in everything he is doing whether you are interested or not.
    


11. DO NOT become too busy to listen to him or do things for him. When you start to have lots of children it can become really easy to do this, but remember you are made to be a help meet for him.
    


12. DO NOT let your appearance go because you have married him now. Make yourself pretty for him. Yes he loves you no matter what, but you made sure that you showed him that you care enough to look nice for him before you were married, you should care more, not less, after he actually becomes your husband. It is not a matter of keeping his affections, but rather continuing to give him all that we have to offer. 5 minutes a day is all it takes.

I have made my share of mistakes and still do. Many of them are listed above. I am still a work in progress, so please don’t take this to mean that I think I have arrived. I thought listing a few resolutions and observations, may be helpful to someone else.

the end :)

The Eeyore of the Matter

I think God brings people into our lives to remind us to be grateful for what we have. I had dinner with a friend last night that I met at work about 5 or so years ago. She is what I typically call an “Eeyore” type. You know, like Eeyore in the Winnie the Pooh movie. I spent two hours listening to how sad her life has become and it hit me how wonderful my life is. Sure there are things I don’t have in my life (two guess what those are :), but I am so incredibly blessed. Some times it takes talking to someone that is going through something to make us realize that we truly are blessed. That is not to say that we should gloat over other people’s misfortunes or trials, but I think we would be foolish not to use those circumstances when we hear of them to take stock on all we have to be grateful for.

I Peter 4:12-16

Beloved, do not think it strange concerning the fiery trial which is to try you, as though some strange thing happened to you; but rejoice to the extent that you partake of Christ’s sufferings, that when His glory is revealed, you may also be glad with exceeding joy. If you are reproached for the name of Christ, blessed are you, for the Spirit of glory and of God rests upon you. On their part He is blasphemed, but on your part He is glorified. But let none of you suffer as a murderer, a thief, an evildoer, or as a busybody in other people’s matters. Yet if anyone suffers as a Christian, let him not be ashamed, but let him glorify God in this matter.

Do You Think Sew?

I am trying to decide whether or not to take another sewing class. I haven’t taken one in about a year. I feel like I need to keep busy at home more. What is that old saying about idle hands being the devil’s instruments? I feel like I have too much time on my hands right now and need to find something to keep me busy. I LOVE to embroider, but I really only like to do that if I am watching something on tv or talking to someone. I can’t just sit there and do it. With sewing I can put some music on and just do it. I also have several unfinished projects that I want to finish that have been sitting around. I have an apron that I have had on a form in my spare room for over a year. Yes, Stacey…the one I have been making for you. LOL

The only problem was that I wasn’t very fond of the teacher. She is not mean or anything just kind of abrasive and in my opinion not very constructive with her criticism. Sigh. Decisions, decision. Oh, and it is only $60 for a 10 week class.

To sew or not to sew, that is the question. Aren’t I witty? Don’t answer that :)

Did You Know?

I have known for awhile that many types of "birth control" can cause a woman's body to self-abort. I am amazed how many women don't know this, or aren't informed by the medical community (more the latter I think). They are never told that the pills main job is to prevent implantation, but its back up plan is to create what they call a "hostile womb", so that a fertilized egg (a baby) can't attach itself to the uterine wall. Thus causing an abortion.

This segment on CNN should really make women think about the form of birth control they are using.

I think this falls under the category of "What Every Woman Should Know".

Psalm 139:13-14

For You formed my inward parts;

You covered me in my mother’s womb.

14 I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;

Marvelous are Your works,

And that my soul knows very well.

It's Here, It's Here

I am SO glad it's almost the Sabbath!! Yep, that's it :) Just wanted to put that out there!

Isaiah 58:13-14

13 “ If you turn away your foot from the Sabbath,

From doing your pleasure on My holy day,

And call the Sabbath a delight,

The holy day of the LORD honorable,

And shall honor Him, not doing your own ways,

Nor finding your own pleasure,

Nor speaking your own words,

14 Then you shall delight yourself in the LORD;

And I will cause you to ride on the high hills of the earth,

And feed you with the heritage of Jacob your father.

The mouth of the LORD has spoken.”

The Trials of Television

I ran across this article called Feminism's Television Intrusion. I thought I would share because it was very thought provoking and I like those kind. :)

I don't have cable on my TV and because I don't I don't have cable I get no channels at all. I did this for a couple of reasons...1) I watched the darn thing way too much. I would switch on the tv and not get anything done and would be shocked to realize it was after 11 pm, and 2) the things on tv started making me sick to my stomach, which I have posted about before.

This article demonstrates why if a person has a tv, which isn't wrong, they need to be aware of what they are watching and what their very observant children are watching, even when you don't think they are. The little boogers are sneaky and hear and see more than we think. :)

More than once I been asked by my niece or nephews, "auntie why did you say such and such?", and found myself speechless because I am mortified that they heard me since I didn't even realize they were in the room! Yikes :) See sneaky...heehee

It's Legal...again.

Finally, California is showing some sense, although I am sure it will be fleeting! The courts reversed themselves and have declared it is again legal to home school your children. See here.

Are We Slipping?

So, I have noticed a strange phenomenon. Stores do not carry slips anymore. You know the kind women wear underneath their dresses to keep someone from peaking at the goods? You know…the whole modestly thing?

Anyway, apparently stores don’t carry them anymore because no one wears them. You can only order them out of a catalogue if you are lucky. Say what? Since when do women not wear undergarments? Since, now I guess. I guess I shouldn’t be too shocked as I can’t go to Trader Joes without witnessing the appearance of some girls booty crack. It’s Trader Joes people, there is food here…Pull up the pants!

I will freely admit that I like girly things. I mean, give me a football to throw and you will see I DON’T throw like a girl, thank you very much, but I like my girlie stuff too. And when I like my girlie things, I like them to be well…girlie! Lots of lace on undergarments, etc.

And now…gasp…no one sells them. I am on an online quest for pretty/glamorous, yet functional slips. I am just floored that stores like JC Pennys and Sears don’t sell them anymore. What is the world of undergarments coming to? I seriously think I should have been born in another era ... and undergarment wearing era. :)

LOL!

I'm a Fighter Pilot

This is just too cool not to pass on. Move your cursor where you want to go. If you get motion sickness, I wouldn't advise checking out this site. It is just amazing they can do stuff like this.